It doesn’t matter how many strategies or various sexual positions you try, if you want to increase sexual stamina and last 30-40 minutes longer in bed, you need to learn how to relax while using them. And the secret to learning how to do this comes through practice.

Preventing early ejaculation comes down to your ability to relax both, the mind and body during sex. It is known the premature ejaculation is essentially the contraction of the PC muscles (the muscles you use to stop urination in mid-stream) in conjunction with the increased heightening of sexual arousal Shibuya Kaho. You must be able to relax the PC muscles if you wish to stop premature ejaculation.

So our ability to make sex last longer is going to depend on your mental effort to keep the PC muscles relaxed. It doesn’t matter what strategies or positions you use. If you can’t relax the PC muscles, you will ejaculate early.

Control Your Mind, Control Your Body: Most men are totally focusing on the sensations they are feeling in the genitals during sex. You must start to take the focus away from the genitals and apply the focus to other parts of the body like the abdomen. Focus on breathing with an in and out motion with the abdomen instead of an up and down motion of the chest. Also pay mental attention to the tightening of the leg and hip muscles. When you feel them tightening, stop for a few seconds and take a deep breath. Hold it in for a count or so and allow your mind and body to relax.

Turn Your Focus Elsewhere: When you feel your arousal starting to climb faster than you like, turn your focus from your arousal to other areas. Take your eyes off your lady and tell yourself to relax, over and over. Start thinking about your toes and wiggle them. After a few times of practice, this will be a great strategy for you.