When the pain-body becomes active it begins devouring your consciousness. It has succeeded in convincing you that you are it! Your entire mental process and sense of self is completely aligned with it. And it knows it. It is now in charge. It has taken over you, your speech, your sight, your perception, and most importantly, your emotions and all the pain that comes with them. And this is when you have, in a sense, become the pain-body. The true you is no longer. And at that very moment (at the time of consumption) the last thing in the world you want is to be at peace. You want war! So what do you do? You go looking for an enemy.

If you came upon a sage during this active stage of the pain-body and the wise sage said to you, “There is such a thing as life without pain,” you would probably kick his teeth out. This is because the sage would not be talking to you, he would be talking to the pain-body. Remember, you’re long gone.

In relationships, the pain parasite may remain hidden for many weeks, even months in some cases where both partners are living in a place of total bliss and everything appears to be as right as rain. And then one day, when you least expect it, either your or your partner’s pain parasite will suddenly arrive on the scene. Let’s say it’s your partner’s pain-body that shows up first and so something you do–or don’t do–will trigger it off and he makes a snide, condescending remark (seemingly out of nowhere), and when he makes it his face will be all distorted and “sick-like.” You’ll be left wondering, who is this ugly person who just made Life Coach in Santa Rosa Ca that derogatory comment? And so that will be your introduction to your partner’s pain-body.

The amount of time a pain parasite remains active will depend on how heavy it is and, of course, how much of a reaction they can maintain from others around them. The more people they can upset and get a reaction out of, the better. Some people who have unusually heavy pain parasites will not be able to be around others for long periods of time simply because everyone will be pushing their buttons and then that’s when the pain becomes too intolerable for the host. Of course, the pain parasite loves the pain, but the host is only human. The pain-body is not.

For me, I had to be on my own for three years before I could completely heal my pain parasite. Of course I saw people every once in a while during that time–but only briefly. I couldn’t be around my family, friends, no one that I knew intimately. The more you love someone the more it hurts when they push your buttons, and when you’re carrying a heavy pain parasite, you are hypersensitive to everything they say. The most benign remarks are twisted around in the mind and interpreted as a hostile attack. That’s when it becomes a challenge just to get through each day without an active pain-body.

An expert on the pain-body, such as a Spiritual Life Coach, can help you to become aware of your body of pain and work toward healing it. One on one, Spiritual Life Coaching sessions can provide you with all the tools you’ll need to transcend your pain-body and begin living a life of peace, joy, and tranquility.